Aha Moments of the Soul: Let your values raise your vibration

“The soul has been given it's own ears to hear things the mind does not understand.” 

― Rumi

Your consciousness contains many aspects or lines of intelligence with your passions and values being prime in these lines. Transformation begins with getting crystal clear about what is deeply meaningful to you. Not the ‘you’ as shaped by everybody else – your family and your society, but the utterly unique you that is waiting to be recognized (re-cognized, known again) in your heart and soul. Recognizing your higher values gives you the courage to step out of the shadow of expectations and stand in your own power. Listening to your soul leads to radical authenticity where you follow no-one’s advice except that of your own inner guidance system and become inspired by it. The word inspiration means ‘spirit in’ and you will have no spirit behind anything you do until you get intimate with what is deeply meaningful to you. “There’s a voice in the Universe entreating us to remember our purpose, our reason for being here now in this world of impermanence. The voice whispers, shouts, and sings to us that this experience—of being in form, space, and time—has meaning. That voice belongs to inspiration, which is within each and every one of us”. (Wayne Dyer: "Inspiration: Your Ultimate Calling”).

Get Real

Stop trying to be something you're not. Waken up to who and what you really are. Find out what makes your soul sing. Maslow’s hierarchy of needs culminates in self-actualization, the need to realize and bring forth our deepest potentials. The trouble is, we have a tendency to try to actualize a concept of who we think we should be – our ‘idealized self’. We concoct an objectified version of who we really are and then we look at this object of our imagination and criticize it. We turn ourselves from the sovereign subjects that we are into objects of scorn. We are full of judgment about this human object, this false self that we’ve created. And each judgment is a little stab of self-attack. As Eckhart Tolle points out, we are the only species to do this. You don’t find a dog worrying if it’s tail is too short or its ears look too pointy – the dog is totally engaged in the sheer pleasure of simply being in the flow of life. We, on the other hand, are in our heads where attack thoughts sap our life energy, crippling our ability to connect with life as it flows moment to moment. One of the subtlest and most insidious self-attacks is to fall in line with what you perceive society expects of you, to live your life for others. This is death to the soul. You get the feeling that something is not quite right within you and your life force and your inspiration become drained. Because instead of living your unique destiny, you are selling out to a false and unfulfilling existence dictated by outside influences when the only influence that matters is the one coming from your own soul, your own intuition.

Your raison d’être is to manifest the spirit in you, to perfume our world with your own exclusive fragrance. Your job is to extend love and positivity into the energy field and you can only do that when you are happy and fulfilled in your own life, consciously expressing the passions and values that allow all of your potentials to unfold as you live your life on purpose.

Get Creative

Re-cognizing your values is easy when you go beyond the rational mind to the domain of your soul. Soul level consciousness can be accessed by engaging  the right brain, the intuitive, imaginative, big-picture aspect of consciousness that creates rather than repeats. Creative visualizations provide a gateway to  this level and a favourite is meeting your “Future Self”, a metaphor for your own inner wisdom and higher values. The ideas and images that arise during this flight of fantasy reflect what is deeply important to you. You use your heart-mind or soul to evaluate them. If your heart sings and your soul lifts, you’ve hit a sweet value; if your stomach sinks it’s probably not right for you. This is how to decide whether you’re envisioning your own values or ones you feel you “should” have. You bypass the critical mind and prioritize your values based on how they make you feel. This is how intuition operates. You will feel the energy and excitement behind your highest values:

“I got a huge rush of energy through my body as I answered my future self’s questions” (M.M., client).  

There are no worries at a soul level of consciousness: 

“The message from my future self seemed to come from my soul: ‘Enjoy being who you are. Let go of concerns because there’s no need to worry.’” (J. R., client)

You can experience yourself differently through visualizing your future self: 

“Vision, understanding, patience, self realization, greater self esteem from being able to see my “future self” (E.W., client)

Pursuing what is true for us sometimes requires bold action:

“I used to be risk aversive but not any more. I’ve learned to take more risks in order to be congruent with what I hold true for me internally” (D.C., client).

Integrate Body and Mind

Reports reflect the essence of the authentic stage of development where being true to yourself means actualizing your unique values, sharing your inspiration. Jenny Wade describes it as bodymind integration where qualities of autonomy and authenticity rise up. This is why it is so important to keep your mind on your values, setting your intention to be mindful of them and deliberately choosing them. Being intentional means making conscious, moment-to-moment choices to honour your values. This client reported that his coach had been exploring his values and encouraging him to use his intuition at the time of his “Aha” moment:

“Creativity –my value around being creative and proactive with all – making a connection with all makes it right and whole” (P.L. client).

The next client refers to this bodymind integration as she looked into her soul:

“During my most recent coaching session, I experienced the a-ha moment. I was aware that my whole body was suddenly truly at one. Thinking and feeling were no longer coming from separate places. I was experiencing vibes in the atmosphere and understanding them, I had become everything I was supposed to be, I had looked into my soul and become whole”. (K.G., client)


Find yourself a great creative visualization or contact me and I’ll send you the “Future Self” one.






Aha Moments of the Mind: Stillness Speaks


“Put your thoughts to sleep, do not let them cast a shadow
over the moon of your heart. Let go of thinking.”

Stop Fighting Reality

Stillness Speaks (Eckhart Tolle) teaches that when we connect to the stillness within, we transcend, we overcome the habitually active bodymind to discover another order of reality completely. We light upon peace and serenity at the core of this reality. One of the greatest blocks to experiencing stillness is our tendency to fight against reality, to have opinions about what should and shouldn’t be happening. Eckhart says: “The greatest difficulty is the mental resistance to things that arise, and the underlying assumption that they should not.”  

By mentally resisting reality we have built a great prison of our minds and hearts. Resistance comes from clinging to stories that the mind (ego) has spun about past events. The ego can never fully perceive anything as it is now. It filters all experience through its historical understanding and so taints the present. It brings forth from its memory banks remembered ‘knowledge’ which is only biased and conditioned ideas, opinions, judgements and beliefs and imposes them on either the future or whatever you are experiencing in the present moment. This completely distorts reality and renders it impossible for you to experience directly the true nature of what is really happening moment by moment. This habit of mind causes endless suffering.


There is an antidote. Suffering is alleviated when these automatic habits of mind and heart are unlearned, uncoupled from memory (what was) and desires (what ought to be) and replaced with open, non-evaluating attention to what is now. This means not looking at life as if you’ve seen it all before. It means not arguing with life as it unfolds. It means getting behind your present experience with all your focus and energy. So be fully open to it, climb aboard it with no judgment and no demands that anything be different than it is. When you do, you get past all your stories; you empower yourself to truly engage with your life and the people in it from an innocent, not knowing place that doesn’t judge and doesn’t resist what is presenting itself in reality:

“I can be very content and get positive feedback from others if I am ‘in the moment’ and meeting people where they are. I used to pre-judge people and was reluctant to assist people who don’t ‘deserve’ it. How my awareness has grown” (N.Y., client).

Awareness grows as you surrender to present experience or Presence. In addition to freeing you from the past, being in the moment releases you from future worries: 

“I’ve learned how to surrender to and “be in” the moment of instead of planning. (E.W., client)

Being and responding in the moment engages the authentic you as opposed to the re-presentation of you, the rehashed self-image that you present to the world: 

“Aha moments have become a constant reminder of being authentic in the present moment”. (S.D., client)

Client F.L. has learned to surrender to ‘what is’ and with it gains the power that comes with not resisting reality:

“I now am aware that there is another much more powerful place for me. And at the same time I feel I don’t want to put up an act that everything is always easy and joyous in my life. It is about the awareness of feeling what is real and having the attitude of wanting to be with exactly that – with what is”. (F.L., client)

Surrender means giving up control:

“Shift in control from needing to keep hold of everything to allowing things to be, knowing that whatever happens I can deal with it.” (S.B., client)

The next extract reflects the excitement of a man in his sixties who has learned for the first time in his life to concentrate on the present rather than the past or future:

I’ve spent all my life thinking about then (past and future) and never appreciated the pivotal role of NOW. It works – I’ve tried it!” (R.B., client)

The NOW is a dimension of reality that can be experienced only when you let go of the ego mind and stay present and open to life. Presence is like a state of meditation. You don’t need to be sitting cross-legged on your cushion to have a still mind, to be present and alive to what’s happening now. For client L.H., the outcome of stilling the mind means that:

“Perception crumbles and is replaced by something clearer and more real” (L.H., client)


1. Put all your attention and energy into living in a state of beginner’s mind, a state of innocence. At the deepest level act like you are seeing, hearing, tasting, touching and smelling for the very first time. Try eating just one mouthful of your next meal in full presence. Try walking through the park, being fully present with each flower and each tree. Look into the eyes of a loved one as if truly seeing them for the first time. Try being fully present with your children or your friends even if it is just for a few moments. You can’t live in the world like this all the time. But spending some of each day in a state of innocence and Presence will open up your awareness to the sacredness of life. This in turn will transform you. You will begin to remember who you are. You will begin to have a taste of Heaven on Earth. (These ideas are taken from Leonard Jacobson).

2. Some people like to sit regularly in meditation and be in the now of their experience. Others prefer to be mindful, or present as they go about their day. Some like a mixture of both. Experiment by surrendering your ego in both situations and feel the difference between a life lived in the conditioned mind, i.e. the past and one lived in the joyful reality of the present moment.